How to Love Without Conditions

[00:00:08] Yeah, the simplest way to put love is it's not transactional. [00:00:15] It's not a doing. It's something that happens, and it's something that's there or it's not, and it's just pure and simple. [00:00:22] Clean. [00:00:24] And the minute or the moment we go into a contractual situation of I love this because [00:00:31] it does this for me or it does that for me, or he or she gives me this. [00:00:36] That's why I love. We're actually, it's not love. It's different now. [00:00:43] It's now, now the mind's entered into the process. [00:00:49] And love is mindless. [00:00:56] It's not interested in what you think. [00:01:02] It's not interested in what you get, who you think you are, who you think they are, or what you think it is. It's just [00:01:10] a pure essence. [00:01:20] Just uncontractual. [00:01:42] And it is so important to understand because if you think you have love, you need to check. Is it a transactional event I'm involved in here? [00:01:52] Is it, is it actually I love this person because I'm not lonely when I'm with somebody? [00:02:00] Whether it's a friend, a partner, uh, even an animal. [00:02:12] That's not love either. That's relief from loneliness. [00:02:23] And the ultimate of love is that everything is love. You, it's all love. It's all interconnected by love. It's not separate. So, not love comes from the mind. [00:02:40] And the mind alone. [00:03:15] If you look at animals and babies and small children, it's, it's all love, you know. [00:03:21] A little bit of grasping and pushing here, but generally all love. Simple animals, you know, mean chimps, uh, chimps can become tribal and aggressive. [00:03:31] Humans can become very tribal and very, very, very aggressive. [00:03:36] Etcetera, etcetera. But most animals won't run around killing or hurting or or harming each other for no reason, because there's so much love within their system just naturally. [00:03:55] And draw the play. [00:04:04] Because that's what happens when you have love. It's more playful. Life's more playful. [00:04:11] It's not this serious event anymore. [00:04:15] As Adyashanti would say, uh, seriousness is a mental health issue. [00:04:21] It's, it's a loss, it's a loss of love. It's a mental health issue. [00:04:29] And just clarifying a little bit of unnecessary seriousness. Sometimes we need to [00:04:35] focus in on things. [00:05:04] So it's good to check our relationships and see if it's love or see if it's something else or [00:05:12] this fly that likes me a lot. [00:05:15] And see if it's um, see where we're at with it because it's important because [00:05:20] the further you go down this path, [00:05:24] the further [00:05:26] you have to retrace to heal and come back to center, come back to home. [00:05:31] So it's important to check in as an individual as it can be. [00:05:40] Do you understand inside or outside? [00:05:43] Okay. [00:05:48] That's possibly. [00:05:55] The monkey. [00:07:12] Because the mind is designed for survival and security, and sometimes relationships give us levels of security. [00:07:23] Not going to cure loneliness or Band-Aid loneliness. [00:07:30] They may be convenient financially. [00:07:39] They may look good to the neighbors and your friends. [00:07:44] Because all your friends are doing this, etcetera, etcetera. [00:07:53] That's just gonna continue to check in and just understand what love is so you can live in love. Because if you don't live in love, [00:07:59] tick-tock, time's, the clock's clicking, uh, the top, uh, the clock is ticking now. [00:08:11] We've given this precious, precious opportunity here to [00:08:17] the flower of our consciousness as a human.

• Transactional Love
  A mind-based contract where affection is conditional upon receiving a benefit (security, status, relief from loneliness). It is not love, but a survival strategy.
• The Mind
  A survival mechanism designed for security and calculation, which generates 'not-love' by creating conditional agreements and ego-structures.
• Mindless Love
  The state of pure presence where love exists as an essence, unmediated by thought, identity, or conditions.
• Uncontractual
  The nature of authentic love; existing without explicit or implicit terms of exchange, benefits, or conditions.
• Relief from Loneliness
  A common counterfeit for love; using another's presence as a temporary 'Band-Aid' for an internal state of lack.
• Seriousness
  A symptom of mental entanglement and a loss of contact with love; the opposite of the playful state that arises from Direct Presence.
• Deconstruction
  The inner engineering process of dismantling the mental agreements and patterns that obscure what is already present.
• The Direct Path
  Recognizing what is true directly, without the intermediate steps of seeking or practice. In this context, seeing love by removing mental obstructions.
• Ego-Structures
  The collection of mental patterns, agreements, and identities that create transactional relationships to ensure their own survival.
• Cessation of Suffering
  The result of dismantling the mind's contractual demands, allowing for the natural state of being (love) to be recognized.